Guilt is an emotion I frequently feel and frequently run from.
I didn’t know what my guilt meant. What it was trying to tell me.
I was recently reading the book ‘When the Body Says No’ by Gabor Mate and he speaks of guilt.
He mentions something along the lines of … people-pleasers (me) should celebrate when they feel guilt. It means for once they are saying yes to themselves. This is going to feel weird because it is a new way of existing NOT because it means you are doing something wrong.
WOW. I feel so grateful to have this change of perspective.
I have especially felt guilt in my relationship to my parents. They don’t consciously try to make me feel guilty. I have been so attuned to reacting to their emotions (not my own), especially my mother’s, that I feel when I say no I am abandoning her.
It is such a deep habit that has led me to exhaustion. I have no choice but to learn how to live differently – I’m so ready for it.
Love you,
Abby
xoxo
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